HOW ARE YOU?
ALL GOOD, I hope.
I wanted to TALK about RELATION-SHIPS.
TODAY, MANY, RELATION-SHIPS FAIL.
In my GRANDPARENTS TIME, this was not too COMMON with MOST RELATION-SHIPS LASTING THE DURATION.
So WHAT EXACTLY has CHANGED over this period.
COMMON VALUES, I would SAY.
…But…
WHO am I to SPEAK on THIS SUBJECT?
WHAT GIVES ME THE AUTHORITY.
Considering the FACT that MOST of my RELATION-SHIPS have actually FAILED.
THOSE ARE VERY GOOD QUESTIONS.
Before we SPEAK about something I FEEL that it is BEST that we LOOK into the thing that WE are LOOKING into.
…So..
WHAT IS A RELATION-SHIP?
The word “relationship” is derived from the Middle English word “relacioun,”
This world actually comes from the Old French word “relacion.”
“Relacion” was derived from the Latin word “relatio,” which means “a relation, reference, or account.”
The suffix “-ship” is a common English noun-forming suffix that is used to indicate a state or condition, or a group of people having a common characteristic.
It also RELATES to a JOURNEY.
In the case of “relationship,” the suffix “-ship” is used to denote the JOURNEY, STATE, or CONDITION, of having a RELATION, REFERENCE, or CONNECTION, WITH SOMEONE or SOMETHING.
MOST OF MY RELATIONSHIP’S HAVE FAILED as I was SAYING TO YOU EARLIER.
At first it was me that was the BAD GUY.
I was the PROBLEM.
I was the one who MESSED THINGS UP EVERY TIME.
I have had some FABULOUS, WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, GIRLFRIENDS.
And I am VERY SORRY for the PAIN that I caused them DURING THIS PERIOD, I am VERY SORRY.
Isn’t HINDSIGHT a WONDERFUL THING?
…Moving on a little…
I realised that I was THE PROBLEM and that if MY RELATIONSHIP’S were GOING TO WORK, then I NEEDED to go off and FIX MY-SELF.
So I did just that.
Before EMBARKING on MY NEXT RELATIONSHIP with a CHILDHOOD SWEETHEART.
…Guess what…
This RELATIONSHIP DID NOT WORK EITHER, despite the FACT that we have a CHILD who is LESS THAN 1 YEAR old.
WHAT HAPPENED YOU MAY ASK.
‘GOOD’ QUESTION 🙂
DESPITE the FACT that my EX is a BEAUTIFUL SOUL INSIDE and OUT and an EXCELLENT MOTHER.
SOME HOW WE FAILED to WORK THINGS OUT and MAINTAIN a RELATION-SHIP BETWEEN OURSLELVES.
So, WHAT HAPPENED?
Another ‘GOOD’ QUESTION.
THIS LIFE is VERY SIMPLE!
…BUT…
It can be VERY TOUGH IF YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW TO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.
SADLY many PEOPLE have GONE THROUGH TRIALS and TRIBULATIONS in LIFE which can AFFECT an INDIVIDUAL in a DEEP WAY.
This can often LEAVE them BROKEN INSIDE.
OFTEN this HAPPENS DURING CHILD-HOOD DURING a TIME of NAIVETY, ILL-EDUCATION, UNCONSCIOUSNESS, etc.
YOU SEE, RELATION-SHIPS between people who are dealing with emotional or psychological issues, or what you refer to as “broken people,” can be challenging and often result in failure for several reasons which include the following:
- Lack of emotional stability: People who are struggling with emotional or psychological issues may find it difficult to regulate their emotions, leading to conflict and instability in the relationship.
- Difficulty in communication: People who are struggling with emotional issues may have difficulty expressing their thoughts and feelings effectively, leading to misunderstandings and miscommunications.
- Difficulty in trust: Trust is a crucial component of any relationship, and people who have experienced trauma or have trust issues may struggle to trust others, leading to tension and conflict in the relationship.
- Difficulty in managing past traumas: People who have experienced past traumas may struggle to process and work through these experiences, leading to anxiety, depression, and other emotional issues that can affect the relationship.
We had both LEFT home BEFORE THE AGE of 16.
We both had CHILDREN, (not to each other), before we were 18.
During our RELATIONSHIP which ran for many years, we often FOUND that we had DIFFICULTY in COMMUNICATIONS, DIFFICULTIES with EXPRESSING OUR TRUE FEELINGS.
We kinda REALISED this and WORKED THROUGH it.
But the EMOTIONAL and PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES where just a little too MUCH for me to HANDLE especially when she was LISTENING to her CLOSE FAMILY around HER, most often to the DETRIMENT of OUR RELATIONSHIP.
With this in MIND, I FEEL that the only AUTHORITY that I have in RELATION to THIS TOPIC is, HOW NOT TO DO IT.
…BUT…
BEFORE I GO I WOULD LIKE TO GIVE YOU THIS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE.
!TAKE IT HOW YOU WILT!
IF YOU ARE DATING SOMEONE.
THEY SHOULD BE THEIR OWN FIRST PRIORITY.
NOT YOU OR THE CHILDREN.
THEIR FIRST PRIORITY SHOULD BE THEIR OWN WELL-BEING.
FOR HOW CAN ONE SUCCESSFULLY MAKE IT WITH OTHERS IF THEY ARE SICK THEMSELVES?
YOUR FIRST FOCUS SHOULD BE YOUR LIFE AND YOUR FUTURE.
JUST AS MY PRIORITY RIGHT NOW SHOULD BE ME AND MINE.
THIS IS SIMPLE LOGIC.
YOU NEED TO FIND HAPPINESS AND SECURITY ALONE BEFORE YOU CAN REALISE IT WITH OTHERS.
WHAT DO YOU SAY?
It has been a GREAT PLEASURE as ALWAYS!
PEACE & LOVE!
Kwadw(o)